Feb 28 2012
Have you got friends who suddenly say goodbye to you, for excuses you consider lame?
If you feel you have been wronged, you have been treated unfairly, you have not been appreciated for what you have done, you have invested much into the relationship but have not been reciprocated to, or you simply feel such break-up is unwarranted, you are not alone.
Recently, a close friend for more than 3 years wanted to cut tie and just remain as normal acquaintance.
You may want to complain out loud to other people. You may want to post your grouses on Facebook. You may want to send in angry tweets. But may I suggest you just keep quiet?
People sometimes don’t know what they are doing. Perhaps they are still young and for the time being out of their mind. After all, when we were younger and even now after we have matured a bit, we have done and still stupid things from time to time.
But when they come to their sense one day, and regret for what they have done to you, they may feel sorry for you and even long for your forgiveness. That’s the time you have the chance to embrace them back and gain back friends rather than enemies.
In life, there are many chances for us to practise forgiveness and grace. Forgiveness means giving them the benefit of doubt that perhaps they have some problems that they have to behave this way.
It also means understanding that generally people want to do their best sincerely to satisfy their own needs versus needs of others, but sometimes there is imbalance due to circumstance or their incompetence, that unfortunately we end up being on the receiving end.
Grace means our being gracious enough not to mind being on the wrong end when they have such problems. It means when people do wrong to us, we don’t need to take revenge and do the same bad thing to them.
In my case, though I feel I’ve been wronged, luckily I managed to control myself and not complain or talk bad about the friend, either online on Facebook or offline in person.
I have only objectively told what happened and expressed my disappointment to a few close friends who asked me about it.
I hope when the friend comes to realize his or her behavior one day, he or she will come back to me, and I’ll be ever ready to embrace back a close friend as before.