Sep 15 2009
Right after my secondary school, I joined one network marketing company. I managed to recruit over 40 downlines in my group. Within a few months I rose to the so-called Manager post.
We were trained for positive thinking. One compulsory reading we must have was Think & Grow Rich. We were trained to visualize success and think “if I think I can, I can”!
I believed in the “law of attraction”, though it may not be called this name at that time. I believed I could achieve anything I wanted, anything my mind focused on and attracted. At the age of 19, I thought I was at the top of the world.
But things did not turn out well:
- My group collapsed. Many downlines migrated to another network marketing company.
- The company also folded itself in a few years.
- I lost money and trust of many friends.
- And many other setbacks in life.
Recently I made a presentation on the concept of self-efficacy. It is the belief that we can complete a certain task completely. It also refers to our general trait that we think we can succeed in a variety of situations.
To make a long story short, while self-efficacy is very important, it is not everything. We humans have limit on what we can do, and we need to be humble enough to recognize our limit.
However, as Stephen Covey, the author of The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, proposes that as we focus on what we can do now (our circle of influence), and not on what we are concerned of but can’t do now (our circle of concern), we will stretch our circle of influence bigger and bigger.
Please go through my presentation and see if you can find out anything or not